The term conjures up some pretty interesting ideas and feelings. But what does it really mean in this day and age? Certainly it means something different than it meant 100 years ago (if you were actually brazen enough to discuss such deviant things as sex). Think about it. Homosexuality was considered a mental illness in the DSM until December 15th, 1973. Further, feminine sexuality has been doubted, debated, questioned, and ignored throughout much of history. How is a girl to even know whether she’s sexually deviant when she’s ignorant to her own basic sexuality in the first place?
There can be a lot of confusion over what actually constitutes sexual deviancy. I think all sex is good sex as long as it is consensual, enjoyable, and it harms no one. For instance, if you’re a lawyer working late and you have the office to yourself, I don’t consider it to be sexually deviant to have a quickie with your spouse in the boardroom. Do it. Enjoy it. And then clean up after yourself. Sex is an excellent way to release endorphins, relieve stress, and generally become more relaxed. It has even been linked to living longer.
So when does it become deviant? Let’s use the same example of the boardroom and the lawyer. If we substitute the spouse with an underage person, a client, or a subordinate, that would make it deviant, as the lawyer is now in a position of power over the other person. (Except perhaps for the client, but that would be unethical at the least, if not deviant, and would quite possibly lead to the lawyer being disbarred, if nothing else.)
Further, some of the more common sexual practices of today (hair pulling, choking) were arguably non-existent fifty years ago. When I say arguably, I really mean it. After all, who knows what really took place in the bedroom of the separate-beds-married couple? Only the ones living it, and they surely aren’t talking.
And what about some of the less common sexual practices of the day, such as used panties vending machines. The way this works is women sale their used panties that end up in these machines for a profit. This harms no one, so I say it’s not deviant. After all, we humans produce pheromones to entice other humans. It’s part of what keeps the human race going, and therefore how can it be wrong?
On the other hand, there are these child sex dolls marketed to supposedly be a diversionary tactic to keep pedophiles from offending. All I have to say about that is Ew! These dolls are as offensive as anything a NAMBLA representative would have to say. THIS I say is sexually deviant, and I fail to see how it will keep a pedophile from offending. If anything, it seems that these dolls would cause the sexual appetite of the user to become more attuned to that age preference. Besides, if this truly was a thing that worked, couldn’t rapists of adult women simply divert to sex with adult sex dolls? They don’t, because that’s not what rape is about, and there is no satisfaction in molesting an inanimate object, no matter how many bows or Maryjane’s you put on it.
Back to the original question: what is sexual deviance?
Does it turn you on? Is anyone harmed by it? You get the idea. If it turns you on and harms no one, why should it be considered deviant?